Couples therapy can cover a wide range of issues and goals. Psychology Today offers some insight on common reasons why a couple may seek counseling:
A breach of trust is one of the most common reasons why couples may seek counseling. Deception can show up in many forms, from physical and/or emotional affairs to money issues. Therapy can create a safe space in order to talk about and work through trust issues.
If you or your partner are finding it difficult to express how you’re feeling to one another, you may have communication issues. This is a very common conflict for a therapist to address.
An uptick in arguing
It is normal for couples to argue sometimes, but if you notice that they are becoming more frequent, it may be a sign that there are more problems under the surface of the relationship that need to be addressed.
Conflicts can arise from minor stressors to major impasses. Though some conflicts can be resolved after a session, some conflicts may involve innate personality traits or other unsolvable problems. Your therapist can provide tools to manage the emotional reaction around the stressors that cannot be resolved.
Sharing things that are hard to talk about
Fear can sometimes keep you or your partner from sharing openly. A therapy session can act as a safe space for couples to talk about things they might not otherwise share.
Major life events
The stress caused by traumatic events such as cancer, or the loss of a child, can cause partners to go their own ways. Relationship counseling might feel trivial when the trauma is taking the front seat, but it can help keep the bond strong and communication channels open for a couple when faced with life’s big challenges.
Intimacy issues, whether it’s emotional or physical in manner, can put stress on a couple. It is common for a couple to fall into a rut over time, and speaking with a therapist can help reenergize the union. Likewise, issues in the bedroom are common bases for couples to seek therapy. Physical intimacy may arise as a singular problem, or as a response to a larger problem. Therapists can provide activities, prompts, and other tools to help couples rekindle their connection.
Relationship counseling can help a couple work towards a strong and successful future together. American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) notes that a satisfying marriage revolves around three factors: individual traits, couple traits, and personal and relationship contexts. Therapy may provide useful tools that strengthen the connection and help a couple prepare for the future.